K is for Kiss my ass, Universe.

Amy McGinis (my partner in crime for E day) double-dog-dared me to name my post that and you can’t just say no to a double-dog-dare.

I’m giving the universe a giant F U today.  Sometimes, things happen that just make no freaking sense.  Zero.  So, I’m a bit pissed off  but mostly, honestly, I’m sad.

Growing up, I had a group of friends that banded together around the time we were 11.  We were inseparable for years and though life is crazy and sometimes we go months without talking, any one of us can pick up the phone and it’s like no time has passed.  One of those friends lost her big sister this week.  I wanted to immediately get into my car and race to her and her family.  I’m not sure what good that would do.  I just needed for them to know that I love them and I’m crying with them and I wish I could somehow make this not happen or for the pain to somehow be bearable.  Losing a sibling is heart breaking.  Losing a child is unfathomable, even when that child is in her 40’s.  It’s just awful.  No adequate words.

Exactly as I will remember her.

Beautiful Betsy

Betsy was like a second big sister to me.  She did my hair for every junior high dance I can remember, loaned me dresses, took me on my first trip dragging main street, introduced me to boys and then immediately told those boys to stay away and that I was way too young for them.  She was stunningly beautiful.  She had an infectious smile.  She truly lit up the room.  I wanted to be just like Betsy when I got into high school.  She went off to college and we figured out how to do our own hair and pick out dresses (It was the 80’s so we didn’t do so well in either regard).  We visited her in Stillwater for Oklahoma State games and she snuck us into Tumbleweeds and taught us how to two-step.  I remember a wedding, a few city changes, work, life, kids…years pass, decades pass…and now this.

I’m stuck here with my laptop an hour away from where her services are being held tonight.  Stuck because of my stupid lungs.  I’m angry, stunned, frustrated, but mostly, I’m just sad.

I’m so grateful to have known you, Betsy.  Godspeed, my friend.


American German – language lesson #whatever

Just English today.  Go call a friend that you haven’t spoken to in a while.  Don’t Facebook them or send a text, pick up the phone and give them a call.  If there’s a rift between you and someone you love, move toward forgiveness today.  What are you waiting for?  Call them right now.  I’m sorry I’m so bossy.  Not really.



  1. Gosh, I feel for you!

    I love those kinds of friendships where it doesn’t matter how much time has passed in between phone calls.

    I’m sorry that you can’t attend the service. I’m new to your blog, so pardon me for not fully knowing what’s going on with your lungs.

    Thank you for this reminder to cherish the time we have with our loved ones while we can! Hugs to you, and may you breathe easier with each passing day.

    Tui, from the #AtoZchallenge
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    • julieyoujest says:

      Best kinds of friendships! I’ve just had a bad run of lung inflammation and infection. Leaving the house is not an option yet. I’ll visit with my friend in a few weeks and give her a giant hug but it does stink not to be able to be there for her and her family now. Thank you for your sweet comments and for your Kolache post – that totally had my mind off of things for a few minutes today!

  2. I’m so sorry for everyone affected. Betsy sounds like a wonderful woman. Prayers for everyone.

  3. Samantha Wyer Bello says:

    I love you. Thanks for this.

  4. This was beautiful farewell for a friend tho, somethings just don’t make a sense.
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  5. Jen Daniels says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your loss & your stuckedness. Just wanted to tell you that I love you my friend & I love this blog, you make me giggle often! I hope you feel better soon.

  6. I too am new to your blog, Tui is a friend of mine and sent me over. You have me in tears. I am so sorry for your loss and that you can’t be there. Sending lots of love, light, and hugs to you.
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  7. Sorry to hear of the loss for you and your friends. Seems like you’ve got some great memories, though.
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  8. Sorry for your loss. {{hugs}} for you, your friend, her family.
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